BROKEN HEART

ASSALAMUALAIKUM AND HI!

"I can't commit with this relationship anymore."

"You're too busy until you don't have time for me anymore. "

"There is a better person who understand me."

"You've changed."

I believe all these are the excuses to break up and then it will lead you to heart break. When your heart is broken, all your emotions mixing up with each other. You will feel physically and emotionally tired. You will enter into depression mode. All things around you seems wrong. You tried. You tried so hard to repair the relationship but there's nothing more you can do. You start blaming yourself for everything that happened. You feel that you're not good enough for him/her. You cry every night. Reminiscing all the memories that both of you created and then you cry again. You cry until there's nothing left for you to cry again and your ex happily moving on with his/her life. Screw you.

Somehow you realize that you have to wake up. You have to start anew. You have to find yourself back. Where is all the confident level that you used to have? Where is the most charming smile that you ever had? Where is the happy-go-lucky person? Then you start asking yourself questions.

"How can I find my happiness again?"

"How can I move on?"

"How can I view the world in different perspective?"

"How to be confident again?"

And because of all those questions that even I,  asked to myself that lead me to share on how I start anew because I know the struggle that you're facing now. We wear the same shoes dear. So here I come up with few tips that you can take to find who you are back. Hope it helps you.

1. Is it worth it?

Your heart broke into pieces but then there you are still standing there hoping for him/her. Get hurt million times but because you still love him/her, you said it is okay. Is it worth it? Is it worth it to get hurt by people who do not know on how to appreciate you? Is it worth it for you to cry for him each and every night?

Ask yourself. Only you can answer this question.

2. Express yourself

If you want to cry, cry. If you want to scream, scream. If you want to eat, eat. If you want to sleep, sleep. Don't keep it in your heart for too long. Express it. Show your sadness. Show your anger. Only then it will help you to calm down. I used to advice people to be strong. Stop crying but little do i know that the more you restrain yourself from expressing it, the more bad you'll be. It is nothing wrong if you cry when you sad. Crying doesn't mean that you're weak but crying show how strong you are because you can express yourself. It takes time. Everything takes time. Even to success takes time.

So, don't rush yourself. Take step by step. You start with crying but later, you'll end with smiling.

3. Love yourself

When you're in relationship, you tend to prioritise your partner first rather than yours and now, there you are crying. Why don't you take a moment and ask yourself, why don't i love myself first? I believe the most thing i learnt when my heart's broke is i have to love myself first. Nothing comes first more than my happiness. Family, friends or  colleuges are only the catalyst for your happiness. The one that decide to be happy is yourself. Value yourself. Love yourself. You're worth it. There is no man in this world that He created unworthy.

Love and accept all your flaws first, only then others can love and accept yours.

4. Positive vibe

To have a positive mind, you need a positive vibes. If you can't find one, be one. I believe those words that you think you throw to others are actually meant for you. It is okay. Throw all those words. If no one read, at least you read it. You express yourself. Keep yourself with positive quotes. You can google it anyway. It is all in your fingertips. If you like it printed, then print it. If you like it written, then write it. Utilize all of your creativity as long as you're happy.

If you're not be able to be the positive one, find a person who you're comfortable to talk with. Talk with them and i believe your friends will keep you in those positive vibes.

5. Explore

When you're in a relationship, you keep depending on your partner but now they are no longer with you. This doesn't mean that your life already comes to the end. There are lots of thing that you can explore in the real world. You like make up? Explore make up world. You like fashion? Explore fashion world. You like photography? Explore photography world. Even you like Naruto? Explore Naruto world.

Keep doing what you love. Explore what you're into. Don't limit yourself. Learn new thing. Only then you know there are lot more thing in this world.

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I hope with all the tips that i share with you will help you. Even a little. I hope that we can always keep spreading love and positive vibes to the world. And also i'm sorry if there is a tip from me that you disagree.  I try to write this in bahasa but it feels so formal. I just can't. Hahahahha.

Oh yaa! All these are only tips. The true peace comes from Him, The Almighty. He is the owner of every heart, so only him can give you the peace that you ask. Sure, He tested you because He knows you can. Don't lose faith. Life isa long journey. Have fun and be happy.

Love ya!